This is a guest post by Neal of ComputerCornerHawaii.com
If you are building an online business while living with someone in a relationship, or have been married for a certain amount of time, sooner or later you will end up having “the talk.” It may manifest itself in a variety of different forms but usually it has the same humble beginnings.
You are having a nice day or evening, the mood is calm and stress free. And then seemingly out of nowhere you hear “We need to talk about something.” The phrase may be a little different for you, but the connotations are always the same. The phrase I heard was “Honey, I would like to talk with you about something.” That is normally the ice breaker, unfortunately for some relationships it may also be a deal breaker as well.
What then follows is most often a long and drawn out conversation about the direction your life is taking, and how much “time you are wasting with this making money online thing.” It can get heated at times, there could be some yelling, but eventually saner minds prevail and the end result is most often a compromise of some sort. Or in the worst of cases an agreement to give up is submitted to your partner slash chairman of the international association of dream killers.
Finding Common Ground
In all seriousness though, “the talk” can be one of the most discouraging or inspiring obstacles you may ever have to encounter while building your online business. If you are the type that is easily discouraged, read on. The light at the end of the tunnel is not a train coming to crush your dreams; it is beacon of hope guiding you towards the land of prosperity.
Despite the talk, there are several things you can do to pick up, dust off and keep striving towards the promise land as long as you do not give up. Here are a few things that I have done to help keep harmony between my online business and relationship.
- Treat Your Online Business like a Real Job
Treating Your Online Business like Real job may seem like a sort of trendy thing to say. But in its application, it can help win over the psychological support of your other half great deal. One of the simplest ways to accomplish this is to set a time that you are “going to work” on your business, and then when the time comes “get ready and go to work.”
Applying this to your business means emulating the behaviors of your previous employment. For example in my previous employment I would waking up, put on my uniform, and go to work. This went on for several years and this is the behavior that my wife associated with me “working.”
So when it came to running my own business, all she could see was me sitting in front of the computer detached from our family lounging in my house slippers perusing the internet. It was not until I started to wake up and “get ready for work” dressing in my collard shirt and pants that she began to take me seriously. Even going so far as to help ensure that our children were not “bothering Daddy while he is working” for one or two hours in the day.
- Keep Family First While Staying Focused
No matter how tempting it may be to keep writing that article you just know is going viral, or submitting just one more forum post, or tweaking your landing page just a few more pixels. Discipline yourself to pull away within thirty seconds or less for your family if need be. As impossible as this may sound, especially if you have young ones, this can really build a lot of support from your partner in the long run.
In every day family life, things can get hectic and on occasion children for whatever reason do have psychotic episodes (well at least mine do). When things of this nature happen while we are working on our business, it can mean a lot to our partner to save all our work and help make a bottle, change a diaper and or do whatever may be necessary to help stabilize the situation.
- Speak in Weekly or Monthly Gains Instead of Long Term Goals
If you are just starting out, this may be one of the most difficult things to do. You may not have made any sales or you may still be researching your niche or any variety of things be distracting you in the beginning. As a result, highlighting small gains with you partner may be more reassuring approach than trying to convince them that you will be paying all the bills with your online business within three years.
One thing I have done is immediately create a Google Adsense account. Even if I only made a dollar or two a week, I would communicate that to my spouse reminding her that I am steadily making progress although in very tiny steps.
- Involve Your Family and Partner Whenever Possible
This part is where being really creative is a must. You may have a niche that is completely unrelated to anything you can do with your family. If that is the case, it is a good idea to think outside of the box with your niche, and in some way shape or form involve your partner and family.
For example, I had a niche I was focusing on that had nothing to do with family and fun in any way. In fact, it was entirely based on the benefits of getting an education online. To involve my family, I asked my spouse if I could interview her about it. Reluctantly she agreed, and in turn produced some quality content. I then asked her if I could take a few pictures of her studying online while we were at the park, zoo, or beach to which she agreed.
Although she did not want to show her face, eventually we made a fun thing about it even getting our children involved. The end product was great content, with pictures of what looked like a mother studying online while her children looked on, all at an angle that didn’t show their faces. It was great.
To this day, whenever I have my camera on my wife and children are enthusiastic about taking some shots and doing some fun things with me.
Never Losing Sight of the Dream
In all honesty, if you have been attempting to build your business for six month or a year, there is a possibility that your other half may not initially be receptive to any of your efforts at all. Yet, as with each task you must accomplish daily, perseverance and determination is the key.
Please be advised though, the last thing you need to do is highlight the contrasts between internet gaming and trying to make a living online. The words may be misinterpreted into you wanting to make a living as a professional gamer on the internet. Take it from me that did not sit well with my spouse at all.
Some of the greatest discoveries ever made were by people who faced enormous opposition in their lifetime. I am personally inspired by one man who was not able to speak until the age of four, or read until he was seven or eight years old. Growing up in school, his teachers thought he was slower than the other children and he was even expelled.
To this day, in some way shape or form we are all affected by the work of this man. His name was Alert Einstein. When I am facing opposition or my spouse just wants to have a talk with me, I am reminded of the many before me who never lost sight of their dreams.